I am a happily married woman, and most of my friends seem to have a lot of troubles in the “man department.” I’m not sure why that is the case, but often on our girl’s nights I get bombarded with the question, “How do I get a man?” Now, I love my friends but when it comes to dating they are like a fish out of water. They act in ways I have never witnessed, they become obsessive, and quite honestly, a bit crazy all around. Forget just finding a man, when they start dating someone new, I’m convinced they may need to find a new friend too. I figured though, it can’t be just my friends who are on the hunt to find a good man. So this is my answer to that seemingly unanswerable question of how do I get a man. Some of it is common sense (which I’ve decided flies out the window when some women start dating), some of it seems too funny to be true, but I believe these tips work.
Be Yourself. Well, that’s a no brainer, right? Apparently being yourself is harder than I knew. My dearest friend, Rebecca loses her entire identity when there is a new guy in the picture. She forgets that she has her own interests, and chooses to only like what her new man likes. For example, she dated this guy with a Harley a couple of months ago, so she was all biker babe all the time. Rebecca is the same girl who dated a tennis pro before that and started wearing all white to everything (not a good look for her). After a couple months of her hanging on her man’s every interest, the guys broke up with her. Why? She was taking the time to do what he loved and putting herself out there to be the perfect biker babe or tennis cutie. The thing is men want their significant others to have different interests. It’s nice that you can go along with your man for things that he loves, but he wants you to teach him a thing or two as well. My husband is a golf pro, so yes, I do occasionally attempt to play. However, I’m a dancer, so he gets to come along with me to a dance class where I need a partner. Strangely ladies, he does not gripe about it at all. You may find that surprising, but the fact is if you find a good man, he will take an interest in things that you love just like you do for him.
Absence Really Does Make the Heart Grow Fonder. When I reflect on another friend, Tonya’s past relationships, all I can think is “stage 5 clinger” (like the one from Weeding Crashers). Oh man, Tonya is all over her man’s each and every move. If you feel the need to be around your guy or in some sort of communication with him at all times, you will scare him off. No ifs, ands or buts about it. Tonya is an amazing woman, but I think she forgets this when their is a new guy in the picture. Immediately Tonya becomes so insecure that she needs to make sure that she is on her man’s mind at all times. Give your guy some space, especially in the beginning. If your relationship continues to grow, then you will come to value your own space, and he’ll appreciate his time without you too. The reunion will also be so much sweeter.
Location, Location, Location. Meeting a man at a club is just not the way to go. I have seen way too many friends become one-night-stands or booty calls thanks to these oh-so-suave (not) guys. Let’s be honest, if you’re picking up men at the club, you aren’t looking for a forever love anyways. Branch out and do things that you do not typically do. Go hit some golf balls with friends (I may be partial, but golfers are hot), take an art class, chill out in a book store. Men are everywhere besides the club, so you should put away your glitter makeup and venture out in the daylight to find a great man.
Again, I hope this sheds some light on how you can get a man. Happy Man-hunting!
*Names were changed to protect the privacy of my sweet friends*
